A very nice article

Came across  a very beautiful article on what love is... pretty lengthy but well worth the time to read it:) 

“拥抱 睡觉 不做爱 那么这个男人是真的爱她...”

偶尔和朋友闲谈，谈到爱 谈到性，

他说他在网上看到这样一句话，“拥抱 睡觉 不做爱”。

我说 “如果是你，你能做到吗？”， 他说 “ 能”，

我，笑怎么能，真的能吗？

如果能，他就不会和别人刚恋爱就上床，刚上床就分手了，呵呵。。。

他告诉我世界上没有爱情，爱只不过是对依恋和习惯的一种修饰 因为寂寞才恋爱 ！

不聊了，话题结束，有些事是不适宜深聊下去的 。

回到家，却还一直想着这句话，

我问妈妈“一个人在一切条件都具备的情况下，

可能和自己心爱的人‘拥抱 睡觉 不做爱吗？’

”妈说:"能"，我问:"有可能控制得住吗，那他还算男人吗?!"

时间突然停滞了几秒,妈妈转过头和我说 "...那才是真男人..."

想到了一篇文章 。。。

和最爱的人在一起一定要做的十件事 ！

其中有一条就是 : 抱着她睡觉,但什么也不做！

什么是真爱?

爱不是性 不是欲 不是占有

如果你真的爱她,你想的不是怎么去占有她的身体,

而是会很小心翼翼的保护她,不让她受一点伤害,

哪怕是自己可能给的,也不可以！

只有出于真爱，你才能真正的设身处地的为她着想。

你才会在做每件事情前考虑到这么做会给她带来什么后果,

而不是简单的想着快感,想着占有,想着满足。

读了一篇散文，觉得有一段写的特别美 ：

"还记得那年暑假的一个晚上,我们坐在小镇河边的公园里,

傻傻的聊到凌晨3点,现在想起来心里总觉得那时侯特别美好,

在那棵桃树下，雨淅沥沥的下着,我们牵着手,我的手心里全是汗水,

但我舍不得放开,我想就这样一直牵下去,雨水淋湿了你的衬衫,

不经意间我隐约看见你湿透的胸口在夜色中象树上含苞欲放的桃花一样,

那时候我真想抱紧你,深深的吻着你,但是我没敢,是我没有勇气,

但我并没有后悔,因为那些美好的情节,

那段朦胧的初恋将永远永远地印在我的心上" ... ...

看到这里你的心中是否也有涌起一丝丝悸动?

是否也想到了一些事? 是否也想起了某个人? 我相信真爱,但我只相信一次 ！

任何人都是这样,心底总有一个永远也忘不了的她,那些清涩的故事,那些傻傻的举动 。 。 。

一旦那份至珍的感情结束了,人就变了,变的无所谓了,

变的世俗了,变的圆滑了,变的不再相信什么狗屁爱情了,

你还会像对待初恋女友那样,小心翼翼的保护着她的第一次吗?!

一次次的控制着自己挑战自己的自制力吗?

不会的,有那个必要吗? 甩了钱,一夜情有的是,做爱其实是件很廉价的事情,

如果你把它的实质只当一种情感的发泄,那它比你给的价钱更廉价,一分钱都不值 ！

如果你不爱她,大可不用考虑那么多,拍拍屁股走人呗,管她那么多,

愿意负责任,我负,不愿意负,我走人 .没有处男膜吧,呵呵。。反正我不损失什么。

女人就是衣服,随便换,天凉快的时候,我都可以不穿,有了钱有了权还怕没女人吗？

如果一个男人这样想了,是的,也许他可以拥有一切,但是----却永远无法拥有真爱了 ！

和每个人一样,也一定有一个女人住在他内心最深处,

只不过却也只能住在他自己的回忆中了,坐在一堆钱上的回忆中了 ... ...

真爱来的不容易

我们还年轻有些事情不是我们该享受的,我们也承担不起请珍惜,爱护身边的她

我们还年轻,学生时代的爱情相对于物欲横流的复杂社会是最真最纯的了，

如果你真的拥有了一份真爱，爱是寂寞撒的慌 。

当你们相爱时，一定慢一点上床，别以为脱了裤子就是爱！

如果这样都是爱，那么扣上皮带也就该拜拜。

做爱容易说爱难~！ 每个人都有初恋，初恋结婚成功率仅为千分之三！

当下大多男人会在婚前有过性行为，然而和你发生关系的女孩子成为你的新娘了吗？

没有？！冲动的惩罚更多的来自于女孩子，怀孕、流产、痛苦、伤心......

当你拥着心爱的女孩子的时候，你有没有想过，当有一天你离开她的时候，

你还能坦然的告诉自己，我曾经是爱她的，她是完整的。我给了她完整的爱？！

当你拥着初恋心爱的女孩儿的时候，望着眼前美丽的胴体，你有没有想过，

当有一天你结婚的时候，你心爱的女孩子告诉你，曾经她有过... ...

你会坦然的面对她，告诉她，没关系，你依然是我今生最美的新娘？！

而当你想起曾经的你的她的时候，你是那么爱她，而你没能给她穿上嫁衣，

你却得到了女孩儿最珍贵的东西，你能没有一丝愧疚吗？

如果你真心爱着她，请不要轻易解开你心爱女孩儿的衣服，

如果你真心爱着她，请不要轻易忘了你曾经的承诺！

如果你真心爱着她，请给她安全的臂弯，给她依靠！

如果你真心爱着她，请善待你们的每一天，让她幸福，让你们开心。

如果有一天，你将独自迎来日出和日落；

如果有一天，你的视线里再也找不到曾经的她的影子。

你却依然可以在你的天空里祝福远方的她过得幸福！

因为，你给了她完整的爱！！！！！

Just found another...

I personally loves it cos of it lyrics, so specially dedicated it to someone out there....

Thanx:)

Maybe due to my recent happenings, a sweet colleague of mine made this card to cheer me up... Although have no idea why a Monster matched with a fish-lookalike squid or is that suppose to be a fish that looks like a squid?:p

Thanx & no worry.... I'm cool:)

Who am I???

Me had been asking this question a couple of times today. Cos by right, what I have been doing the entire day, might not exactly be my specific term of reference. I am suppose to have a couple of guys to handle it but somehow it din seems to be the way.

I got a number of mails from some individual, who simply just forward those mails from vessel, which was address to him, and tell them I am now in charge of the vessels, so I will follow up accordingly. Hahah... me kena tasked with jobs liow & it not from my superior. 

My 2nd call for the meeting had once again failed. Apparently, my presence (may) had turned them away:p Or they simply just bochap me loh. 

It all fun & games ahead. 

What have I got myself into???

Hahaha.... having gone MIA for the last half a week, I returned to office and 'hope" (translate in hokkien) onto some bonus:p

Came to Batam, with 3 vessels assigned to me only yesterday but of cos, over the last 1 week, I noticed there had been some corresponds and one of my guy is overseeing the progress and development of the maintenance. Even in the meeting with the bosses today, it was highlighted to me the importance of some visit that will be taking place tomorrow and now...Upon arrival at the yard this afternoon, then I realizes I'm in for a shock!!! Big shock. Things that are not suppose to go wrong, has totally gone wrong!!! Things that I tot is the bare minimum requirement is not even up to my standard!!! What more can I said??? Hahah... wonder how would the prospective think when they see it tomorrow. 

Even the yard project manager "warn" me and prep for some firing tomorrow liow. Hahaha... Great jobs lah!!!

Looking on the bright side, just checked in to the apartment, not a bad place. So at least can find comfort tonight before the firing tomorrow:p Hahaha....

Internal view... cosy and relaxing

A view from outside of the room...

New Circuit

I know this is not exactly a new news but I just happened to come across about 15min ago:p

Lucky me old liow, no have to go through this especially since the obstacles seems kinda tough:p Wonder what is the passing timing now?:)


For the young boys out there... Enjoy:)

Super Sunday

Not sure what special it is today but so happened to meet up a lot of people from various places.

Woke up pretty early today, so once again did some simple house chores before proceed to 四马路，观音庙 for 拜拜, maybe me just wanna find some peace and comfort in my mind. After the 拜拜 session, me happen to see a poly friend of mine there too, Simon. It had been a long while since I last seen him and must said, he had been working out pretty well. To think that last time, when I started the gym thingy, he used to "envy" my built. Now is the other way round. Hahaha.... Currently working in a offshore coy, he may be just about to be posted to Brazil for new assignment. Thinking hard about it since he did not want to leave his mum alone here. Hope he made a right choice eventually.

After the 拜拜, me then went jalan jalan & shopping at Marina Sq. While hanging around at the F1 promotion kiosk, apart from looking at the race car that is on exhibition there, me also managed to chat up with a promotional temp gal there too:p Too bad, did not get her name:p heehee... So coincidentally, me saw my ex-boss there, Keith, there too. What a pleasant surprise that he & his wife could still remember me & my wife name. Chat up with him a bit bit and see that he sure has a BIG family now, I think, 5 kids:) But sadly, he commented I seem to have put on a bit bit of weight liow. Hahaha.... it a sign. A sign to tell me to go gym fast and get rid of these extra pounds round my waist:p

After the day of shopping in town, then proceed to move over to Hougang. Tot of trying my luck but too bad no luck after checking out the result just now:p Back to this late afternoon, just when I was about to cross the road, me bump into the sisters:p But could not chat up much with them and also, maybe upset wifey cos of my unexpected appearance. Any way, only know they suppose to go over to M1 to change the iphone that is giving my wifey some frustration lately. Hope she would gets a good one this time round:p

Ended my day with a unhealthy dinner, from the 煮炒 stall downstairs. The two stuff I ordered, in particular, the 正宗福建炒面, taste almost similar to the one I had in KL few years back. The taste is nice is of cos equate to unhealthy food:p When I mentioned unhealthy cos it full of pork lards and salt:p While I would try something else next time, but just have to remind myself not too often. Too unhealthy liow:p

环岛追追追。。。

Last night, or rather this morning, it feels like a 环岛追追追 for me:p 

After my 2nd round of drinking session with my friends, me is ready to go back to my place. While I am still struggling to keep myself awake talking to the cab uncle, me was happily sms-ing away, although no immediate reply. (of cos lah, 4+am not everyone would be awake mah:p) But suddenly, realized I dun have my house keys with me, so how???? Hahaha...

Bopain, have to give a call to wifey to "wake" her up and intend to get the key from her instead. On the excuse to send her the cheese tarts but no answer:p Gotta try my luck again since she had replied my earlier sms liow. But to my surprise, she is still awake. Talking to her friend at her place. I guess, after seeing her, I forgot my reason why I came over to look for her. End up I have only passed her the cheese tarts and got chased away. heehee.. 

Now, I am in trouble. What's next??? It 4+am and no house to enter to. I proceed down to my friend's place who stays at the other end of the island. But since it still too early and not right to call my friend up, so I just proceed on over there while sms-ed her of my keys:p No response even after I arrived at her place so just have to quietly stays over in the park near her place till she replies. Nearly feels like an 无业游民:p

Luckily, it is only 6+ place when I received her response so the suffering isn't that bad. But a night out of the house, is damn sianz:p Hahaha.... must rem to have the keys with me all the time. 

Weird nights

Over the last 3 nights, I got the weirdest routine... As far as my memory recalls, this is the first time I dream for 3 nights in a row and somehow, all these are not related nor link with each other.

1st night, Sunday
Dreamt of myself, wif wifey went to some function at a seaside bungalow (or clubhouse). Somehow, mid way thru the function, I heard a crack and follow on, one of the pillar gives way. Immediately, I rushed out from the bungalow, carried up wifey in my arms (cos she almost fainted and jelly legs:p), and we managed to get out of the place fast enough and standing outside, witnessing the collapse of the house.

Woke up from this dream and it was like only 4+am. Did not manage to zzz after that.

2nd night, Monday
Dreamt of myself walking in a pretty spacious landed property, late at night. No idea whose house is that and it has those pretty nice full length windows. While walking around the house, I just proceed to go into the various bedrooms (since the doors are not close) and found my various family members sleeping in there. When I entered into my sis room, seeing her sound asleep in there, I suddenly heard some things flying around. Suspect it might be a bat, roaming around in her room. So I just go on swing my hands and shun off that "flying object"

Woke up at this point and it is only 2+am. Had a hard time going back to zzz, only at 5+ and wake up at 6+ again.

3rd night, Tuesday
Dream of myself meeting up a frnd of mine, together with his wife. After met up at some place, we went over to a fabric shop, where his wife intro me to a frnd of her. A nice pretty looking young lady (no idea who is that), hahaha... so instead of waiting for me, both my frnd and his wife went off and left me alone there. So I just happily flirting with the girl and actually, I got into her good book:p The happy chatting and exchanging of email address (which I have forgotten liow), we were just about to make plans to go out for dinner rather than waiting for my frnd to return.

Woke up now at 5+am:(

Of the 3 dreams above, I called my mum for some 4D idea only at the 1st dream but sadly, leading to no where. Maybe I should ask more about the 2nd and 3rd dream. Or maybe I shall wait for tonight, if I gonna have any more dream:)

And so... who is able to help me 解梦 ???

Fantasy

Have anyone ever fantasize what you would do if you found a genie or magic lamp? And if the genie grant you 3 wishes, what would it be???

For me...
1. Wealth - am sure it would be the first wish for most mortals:p and I even goes to the extent of how much it would be, how do I achieve these amounts & how this amounts would be sustain through my life:p

2. To be the best in whatever I do - this is crazy stuff, I got into details like for example, academic, what I would achieve. Sports, how good I am, ie, combination of some top footballers known to all and also how I would use these magical in built in me to live my life:p

3. Lastly... turn back the clock - Possibly goes back to when I was 16. So all the above wishes can go according to my plan and knowing what is gonna happen at certain stage of my life, so I can alter to the way I want it:p

Hahaha... I am crazy at this early wee hour. Maybe a case of too much of stress and day dreaming so trying to escape from reality? Or simply becoming a nutcase myself:p

My interesting Sat Nite

Wifey always says tat I could not multitask while watching live footie game. And I have found out I can liow cos me is able to chat with friend while watching live game on tv. BUT of cos, the chat gotta involves footie too:p We basically were chatting the proceeding of the game, sort of like a real time commentary between the 2 of us. Hahaha.... We even got into this half time analysis and tcss bout those players and stuffs. Kinda funny & weird things to do though. But considering I am watching alone and his wife isn't a big fan of footie, so we sort of shared a common avenue of discussion:)

Apart from footie, there is a new subject tonite; Wife:) this were his interesting "objective" observations...

Wifey expectation towards hubby~~
1. Wife shld be ranked the most importance in the heart of the hubby. YET hubby should understand wifey commitment to her family is important so may at time hubby ranked after her family.

2. When wifey sms or msg to hubby, instance or minimum delayed response from hubby is required (this include skype/msn). BUT if wifey could not response soon that is because wifey is busy wif more important things and not available immediately.

3. Money spend should be prioritize on items that is beneficial to either family or house. BUT things that wifey buy for self is important in other aspect where hubby may not understand.

4. Hubby shld at times accept changes and adapt. Wifey.... not ready or necessary to change, happy in comfort zone. Not moving anywhere.

5. Hubby shld learn to accept that they may not the best in whatever they do when they were compared. BUT hubby shld not compare wifey wif anyone but consider whatever wifey did is always the best way in doing it.

Hahaha... I got a friend who sure has a lot of grudges against married woman.

Home Trip

Coming late May, early Jun, I am planning to go back to Sg for my home trip. However, this time round, I also intend to take a detour... over to South Africa, Johannesburg to be precise:)

Obviously, the intend is driven by the World Cup is held during that period. If all things goes well, I am planning to catch the host nation, South Africa vs Mexico. And on the following day, Argentina vs Nigeria!!! After which, hang around in the city for about 2 days before returning to Sg... this sounds just fine:)

Checking through the details online now and apart from the fine weather (Up to ave high of 15degC), there are other factors deemed my wifey is not suitable to join me there. Reason??? Go read up Wiki:)

Hope my plan can pull through this year as this would be a great opportunity to watch a World Cup LIVE!!! and in a way, just to pamper myself:)

Miss out!!!

This is what I missed out for the CNY Reunion Makan!!! This poorly taken photo courtesy from my sibling whom I suspect have a very shaky hands

男人女人

男人与女人在不同年次所追求对象的条件。。。

16-25歲
女人 : 26歲至29歲的有事業基礎, 有品位, 有才華的男人
男人 : 20歲至24歲的漂亮, 有身段的女人

25-30歲
女人 : 堅持要比自己大的人
男人 : 20歲至24歲的漂亮, 有身段的女人

30-40歲
女人 : 心靈契合的男人
男人 : 20歲至24歲的漂亮, 有身段的女人

40-50歲
女人 : 男人
男人 : 20歲至24歲的漂亮, 有身段的女人

50-60歲
女人 : 能和她終老的男人
男人 : 20歲至24歲的漂亮, 有身段的女人

60-70歲
女人 : 和他在一起, 需要自己照顧的男人
男人 : 20歲至24歲的漂亮, 有身段的女人

70-80歲
女人 : 和他在一起, 不需要自己照顧的男人
男人 : 20歲至24歲的漂亮, 有身段的女人

80-90歲
女人 : 死在自己後面的男人
男人 : 我雖然已經老眼昏花. 不過我還是希望20歲至24歲的漂亮, 有身段的女人

結論 : 男人是專一的, 女人是花心的

PostSecret

Through a friend, he showed me this blog.... http://postsecret.blogspot.com/

This blog provides a mean for people to get something or load off their mind, heart or shoulder. It an avenue for people to share with strangers their darkest secret, fantasy or guilt.

Interesting to read some of those stuffs and somewhat,at time I do have an urge to write something there too:p well... everyone have some secret but no one to share to, I am just human after all:)

Another random post

Bukit Merah = Red Hill, (direct translation) but this make sense, due to some legendary story of the place.

But then, Bukit Timah = Tin Hill... I have not heard any story of this place or neither did I know if this hill has tin.

Then if Bukit (in malay), is a translation for "Hill", then why do they call it Bukit Timah Hill instead of Timah Hill? I mean isn't it when translation, it like like Tin Hill Hill.

Well... just something damn random:)

Dinner

Managed to cook something tonite and does this look familiar?:p (Hint: We just had it recently)

Maybe I had overcook, in term of quantity, so I guess it will be my lunch for the next 3 days:p

Top 5

Below is the list of top 5 reasons for couple to argue, quarrel, fight I found online...

(not in actual order though)
1. Money
2. Sex
3. Housework
4. Work
5. Children

Now below is the top 3 reasons for couple to argue, quarrel, fight I learnt through a frnd...

(In this actual order)
1. Money
2. Children
3. Food

I guess from my frnd's point of view, sex is never a problem. And since he don't bother to talk about works with wifey, so that dun poise a challenge as well. And lastly, since he has a maid, so I suppose housework is never an issue for him too.

But interestingly, a new nominee in the list... Food. The argument, though not serious type but it does gets to the point of being upset and end up no makan for the nite:p

I do wonder why initially and he has this interesting explanation and it seems like it never a “One size fits all” kinda of solution available.

If one chose to eat certain cuisine but the other party dun fancy it & not willing to give in... argue.

If one gives in to others, but the other party do not have an idea... frustration

If one comes out with a list of options but the other party though initially stated "anything", but end up rejecting all the proposal... Upset.

Hahaha... how true this is!!!

Something damn random....

As for today, 21 Jan 2010, I had been married (starting from ROM date) for 928 days.

BUT to actually physically spending time with wifey is only 128 days, that just barely past 4 months!!! To put in term of percentage, that is only 13.8%. Hahaha....

Like I stated... This is something very random since I am still waiting for my Emperor Chkn to be cooked. But It almost done soon:)

2nd day in work

No intention to update on the daily basis but since me now is back in apartment, downloading some 台湾青春偶像剧 so take some time to update some un-happening thingy for the day.

I still have close to a 1000 emails to be cleared but 3 long mtgs today took up a big chunk of my time. And apart from the mtg, I got a couple of 1-to-1 discussion with some guys on some interesting PR matters as well:p

Over the last 1 month, din noe what had happen since I had not been keeping track of the happening here since my BB did not work properly back home. Maybe could consider this as a valid reason (or most may consider excuses), but in any case, at least I dun have to read the mails while on the move. Especially when I am suppose to be pre-occupied with more important personal stuff （关系到我的终身幸福）:p

The 1st mtg of the day is okay, got my guy to attend with me, taking the opportunity to update myself of the happenings since they had been the one that overseeing it all these whiles. Of cos, more update internally (within my own dept) at the 3rd mtg. So by now, I suppose I have clearer picture of the necessary follow up by the individual, though the SI are still not incline to follow up specific vessel allocation. Instead, they prefer to help out each other. Somehow, I find this not advisable since it upset the ownership of the vessel and accountability. Anyway, will need to push across the change to them slowly.

Most interesting meeting of the day is the 2nd one. Just to cut the story short... I need to improve soon:)

Okay... the 偶像剧 is almost done downloading liow. Time to relax again:)